Raise your hand if you are one of those mothers that stays on top of everything. I mean EVERYTHING! If you are, congratulations, you are amazing! If not, keep reading, you are just like the rest of us.
I mean really, do wonder-mothers really exist? We are all wonder-mothers in our own way, but are there really mothers out there that get it ALL done? If so, I have yet to meet one. And I know some amazing women!
A friend of mine (I hope she doesn’t mind me using her!) emailed me this week and vented about feeling overwhelmed. Haven’t we all been there? We try so hard, to do so much, and put so much pressure on ourselves.
This summer has been a challenge for me, since morning sickness (ha! all-day sickness!) made my regular routine take a detour. Instead of my usual chores all getting accomplished in the week, it became a huge victory to get one thing accomplished! I would tell my husband, “I just have to get the bathroom cleaned this week.” Notice that was singular. The other bathroom could wait.
It’s actually good for us to be reminded that most things will wait. I was reminded this summer that if the carpet wasn’t vacuumed today, it was not a crisis. I have become better at evaluating the must-do items (laundry, feeding children), and letting other things wait. I have also become good at pacing myself. Even though at 16 weeks I am no longer nauseated all day, I do still get worn out quickly. So I make realistic goals each day. Today’s goal was dust. Instead, I scrubbed the kids’ bathroom. After I was informed that the toilet was clogged, I re-prioritized! In the past I would have added it to the list, but today it replaced my list.
Things that I have had to let go of this summer? Blogging, for one. Crafting for another. Sending birthday and anniversary cards to every single person we know was yet another. Sorry if I missed your special day. Now you know why. While I love doing these things, I know that I will be able to again, just not right now.
It’s good that I learn to let go of some things now. With school starting soon, I will be busy homeschooling again. And with the addition of our fifth child coming up, I’m sure there will be many more days of choosing what I can get done, and what will have to wait.
So for my friend who was feeling overwhelmed, and all the rest of us that feel that way at times, I hope this post serves as a reminder that 1) you are awesome!, 2) I feel you, and 3) what needs to get done, will get done, some how, some time. Everything else can wait.
Check back later this week for another way that I get things done. Hint, get the kids involved!